We've all been there.
You know the drill. You're out on a date with a new guy and he says something that makes your skin crawl. It's not what he said, exactly...it's how he said it. The tone, the delivery, the overall message just doesn't sit right with you. But you don't want to be rude, so you just smile and nod awkwardly before changing the subject as quickly as possible.
Don't worry, we're here to help! Here are the top 5 compliment "mistakes" men make and how to fix them:
#1: He Tells You That You Look "Good"
The Problem: This one is pretty straightforward. When a man tells you that you look "good," he's not paying you a compliment so much as he's paying you a backhanded insult. After all, what he's really saying is that you normally look bad but today, for some inexplicable reason, you don't. Ouch.
The Fix: If you want to give a woman a genuine compliment, tell her she looks beautiful. Simple as that.
#2: He Compares You to Other Women
The Problem: We all know that comparison is the thief of joy but apparently, some men haven't gotten the memo. When a guy starts comparing you to other women—whether it's in terms of your looks, your intelligence, or your accomplishments—he's inadvertently putting you down in an attempt to make himself feel better. Not cool.
The Fix: If you find yourself on the receiving end of this type of compliment, just laugh it off and change the subject. There's no need to engage with someone who clearly isn't worth your time or energy.
#3: He Gives You a Backhanded Compliment
The Problem: A backhanded compliment is when someone attempts to give you a compliment but ends up insulting you instead. For example, telling a woman she looks "good for her age" or that she's "pretty for a plus-sized girl." Yikes.
The Fix: If someone pays you a backhanded compliment, call them out on it! Chances are they didn't even realize they were being offensive so they'll be more than happy to apologize and try again. And if they're not? Well, then you know they're not worth your time anyway.
#4: He Tells You That You Remind Him of Someone Else
The Problem: Have you ever been told by a guy that you remind him of his ex? Or his sister? Or his mother? Yeah, we thought so. Telling a woman she reminds him of someone else is one of the biggest compliments "mistakes" men make because it completely negates her individuality. Not cool.
The Fix: If a guy tells you that you remind him of someone else, thank him for the compliment and then ask him why he likes that person so much. Chances are he'll start rambling on about all their best qualities—which will inadvertently make him realize that those are also some of your best qualities! Win-win!
We hope these tips help the next time you're out on a date with a new guy and he pays you a compliment that doesn't quite sit right! And remember, if all else fails, just laugh it off and change the subject! Until Next Time!...XOXO 🍁🧡🍂
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